Clam Lynch - Cut the Crap

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April 27, 2008

COMMUNICATION BREAKTHROUGH.

COMMUNICATION ,OR AS I LIKE TO CALL IT, kəˌmyoōnəˈkā sh ən, IS AN IMPORTANT WAY OF TELLING PEOPLE STUFF.

WITH OUT THIS KEY COMPONENT TO LIVING IN A WORLD WHERE THERE ARE ALSO OTHER PEOPLE LIVING, IT'S HARD TO LET PEOPLE KNOW WHAT YOU’RE THINKING OR FEELING.

NOW COMMUNICATION CAN COME IN MANY FORMS, THE MOST COMMON BEING WORDS. BUT THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO COMMUNICATE, LIKE:
INTERPRETIVE DANCE.
THE MIME TECHNIQUE.
SILENT SCORN.
FACIAL MOVEMENTS AND HAND PUPPETS!

THE TRICK IS TO FIND WHICH FORM IS APPROPRIATE FOR THE SITUATION YOU’RE IN. AS AN EXAMPLE:

INTERPRETIVE DANCE OR EVEN MIMING,USUALLY DOESN'T GO OVER BIG IN ASKING YOUR BOSS FOR A RAISE OR A DAY OFF , NOR DOES EITHER OF THESE FORMS WORK WELL WHEN ASKING A DYNAMITE LADY OUT ON A DATE OR NEGOTIATING WITH THE POLICE OR THE PEOPLE THAT RUN THE PLACE THEY PUT YOU IN WHEN YOUR MIND GOES FUNNY AND YOU’RE LOCKED IN THE QUIET TIME ROOM.

FRIENDS THESE ARE NOT SPECULATIONS!
I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE.

AND SPEAKING OF SPEAKING, I FIND SPEAKING TO BE THE BEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE WAY OF COMMUNICATING.
SPEAKING WORDS, I'M TALKING , REAL WORDS HERE FOLKS, NOT MADE UP WORDS, IN A LANGUAGE THAT ONLY YOU UNDERSTAND LIKE "BEEP BOOP, BEEP, MEEP, MOOP" WHICH MEANS "I AM LONELY AND COLD". TRUST ME THIS DOES NOT WORK.
NO DEAR FRIENDS I AM TALKING REAL WORD, WORDS.

ALSO ESSENTIAL IN THE COMMUNICATION PROCESS, IS SAYING WHAT YOU REALLY MEAN/FEEL .
IT IS OFTEN HARD TO SAY WHAT YOU REALLY FEEL AND OFTEN IT'S JUST FEAR THAT MAKES OUR WORDS COME OUT WRONG.
FEAR OF REJECTION.
FEAR OF CONFRONTATION.
FEAR OF BEING PERCEIVED AS WEAK OR TO SENSITIVE.
FEAR OF BEING PERCEIVED AS A KNOW IT ALL OR A RETARD.

(MY APOLOGIES TO MY RETARDED READERS BECAUSE AS YOU KNOW RETARDS AND DOLPHINS ARE TOTALLY COOL AND I PERSONALLY THINK THEY'RE GOD’S SPIES ..BUT THAT'S A CONVERSATION FOR ANOTHER TIME.)

BACK TO FEAR.
THERE ARE SO MANY OF THEM IT'S SCARY!

BUT WE MUST COMMUNICATE HONESTLY AND FACE OUR FEARS IF WE ARE TO BE HAPPY AND FREE OF SHAME ,REMORSE, ANGER, RESENTMENT OR SUPER EMBARRASSING, EXPLOSIVE, INAPPROPRIATE OUTBURSTS!!

LET ME GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT NOT TO DO.

LAST WEEK I WENT INTO MY LOCAL COFFEE SHOP AND THERE IS A GAL WHO WORKS THERE AND SHE SEEMS TO LIKE ME AND FOLKS TO BE HONEST, I AM A BIT SMITTEN WITH HER AS WELL.
SO I DECIDED TODAY WOULD BE THE DAY I ASKED HER IF SHE MIGHT LIKE TO GO HAVE A CUP OF COFFEE SOMETIME. WHICH SEEMED PERFECT, SINCE SHE SEEMED TO BE DEEPLY INVOLVED IN THE WHOLE, COFFEE LIFESTYLE.
SIMPLE ENOUGH?

WELL, WHEN IT CAME TIME TO ASK HER OUT, TO COMMUNICATE MY FEELING HONESTLY AND FEARLESSLY, I INSTEAD FOUND MYSELF SAYING:

"HEY YOU KNOW WHAT’S FUNNY? I KEEP THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING MY FRIEND TOLD ME? HE SAID, IF YOU SIT ON YOUR HAND UNTIL IT FALLS ASLEEP AND THEN YOU TAKE THAT ASLEEP HAND AND TOUCH YOURSELF IN VARIOUS PLACE ON YOUR BODY, IT FEELS LIKE SOMEONE ELSE IS TOUCHING YOU." I THINK I ALSO ADDED A PHYSICAL COMMUNICATION, IN THE FORM OF A WINK.

SHE JUST STARED AT ME LIKE I WAS USING MY MADE UP LANGUAGE,THAT I SPOKE OF EARLIER AND JUST WENT BACK TO HER WORK.

THE SHAME.

ALL I AM SAYING, IS WHEN IT COMES TO COMMUNICATION, SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, MEAN WHAT YOU SAY, AND DON'T SAY IT MEAN.
DON'T FEAR, FEAR.
SAY IT, PROUD AND SAY IT LOUD!
NOT TOO LOUD.
I HOPE THAT I HAVE HELPED YOU.
I KNOW YOU HAVE HELPED ME.
KEEP ON TALKIN’
CLAM

Posted by clamlynch at 4:52 PM